You ask how to deal with anger. The House of Justice
suggests that you call to mind the admonitions found in our Writings on the
need to overlook the shortcomings of others; to forgive and conceal their
misdeeds, not to expose their bad qualities, but to search for and affirm their
praiseworthy ones, and to endeavour to be always forbearing, patient, and
merciful. Such passages as the following extracts from letters written on
behalf of the beloved Guardian will be helpful:
There are qualities in everyone which we can appreciate and
admire, and for which we can love them; and perhaps, if you determine to think
only of these qualities which your husband possesses, this will help to improve
the situation… You should turn your thoughts away from the things which upset
you, and constantly pray to Bahá'u'lláh to help you. Then you will find how
that pure love, enkindled by God, which burns in the soul when we read and
study the Teachings, will warm and heal, more than anything else. Each of us is
responsible for one life only, and that is our own. Each of us is immeasurably
far from being perfect as our heavenly father is perfect" and the task of
perfecting our own life and character is one that requires all our attention,
our will-power and energy...
- The Universal House of Justice (From a letter dated 17 July 1979 written on
behalf of the Universal House of Justice to an individual believer; The
Compilation of Compilations, vol. I, Preserving Baha’i Marriages)
